Well wow, look who checked in. Hi Barb. And Pammie! I still lurk around here a bit. Have to admit it has slowed way down over the past year. I guess there are so many outlets now that people go to all kinds of places for support.
Thanks for the update. All is well here. Have to admit I miss keeping up with the exploits of all my old board friends although I don't know when I would have the time to do that any more. Life seems to be full of other things and I don't know now looking back how I spent so much time on the boards. I guess I spend it exercising and working and traveling and generally keeping up with the everyday. If you are in touch with Beth in particular tell her I think of her often and hope she is well.
It's interesting that you posted the 8 year milestone. I was just thinking about that the other day. When I was abroad trying to save my marriage in 2002 I went to get a manicure in a salon I had never been in. The woman was just talking, this and that, and she said you know, they say things change every 7 years. I'll never forget that, I was 49 years old, 7x7. I burst into tears and the poor woman was quite taken aback! I had to apologize, it was a scene, me, tears all over the place, my nails, this stranger. I was a wreck. So now here it is, 7 years later and it will be eight soon. That was on my mind the day you posted. More than a coincidence.
So I wonder what has changed and what has been evolving that I do not even know about that will reveal itself. We shall see. I am not waiting, just wondering:)
I haven't dated since the relationship with the missing man sociopath. A possibility or two have shown up but nothing has come of them. I met one guy at a charity dinner and what he wanted to do was talk on the phone. Too busy it seemed to get together, he has a teenaged son and is the sole parent. I found that troublesome (the no time to meet in person but wanting all kinds of info part) and so it went nowhere. After all I have been through I had no interest in talking about the personal details of my life on the phone for months with someone I had met once. It's too bad really, he seemed nice but after he stood me up for a tentative date (let's do it, arrangements to follow)with no call to cancel I had to mention that it was not acceptable. That was the end of that.
So this is long, I think recovery from the MLC path after a long marriage takes a long time, even when you have a good relationship that helps, and I am glad you and your family are doing as well as possible. Cheers, Wonder Oh ps let's raise a toast to the latest greatest emblem of mid life crisis, the governor of South Carolina USA. What a charmer. Please help me through unchartered waters if you saw those emails LOL.
