Yes, I already have a masters in a related field, and I find the job market rather weak. Even if I found a job in my field, the pay is so low, with such small opportunity for advancement, that it doesn't entice me. But perhaps she is going to Georgetown and is related to a senator. Now, that might make some difference. Perhaps you ought to encourage her to talk to an attorney and see what she can reasonably expect her finances to look like.
but, then again, there could be another man who would change the equation considerably. I found graduate school quite difficult with no outside responsibilities. I can't imagine doing it while meeting the needs of 3 school-aged kids.
Her former love, before me in College, is 2nd EA. He and OM1, with whom I am quite certain there is no contact, both live in same city in the NE! We are in Chicago and effectively bound here for next 10 years, as neither she nor I would ever agree to the other moving out of state with the children. So, at best she might pursue long-distance relationship with OM2, but who knows. I don't like labels, but our IC suspects she is NPD.She is Superwoman.
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UGH! NPD is so ugly! Yes, she probably thinks she can entice OM2 to move to be with her. And she can't get started til she is out the door. I don't see anyway to stop her if she has NPD. It's not like they are willing to admit they have a problem, and if they did, they still wouldn't want to fix it. They think they were just chosen to be greater than other people. Nothing but real life can convince them otherwise. And even then, it's just everyone being against them that makes their lives so impossible.
OM2 won't move. He has S4 and just got divorced. More likely scenario is they travel together from time-to-time. She originally him during College because he was "narcissistic egomaniac". LOL.
The words that haunt me most are the ones my IC (who knows W very well) said: "Her self-interest trumps her from doing what's right for the kids". Many WAS's (especially when an affair is involved) seem to have a certain lack of empathy, but with NPD, it is magnified.
I think her bailing on the NB is just more evidence of that... She said the right things, when there was a quid pro quo put on the table by her for doing it, but when I made the necessary plans for it, she wiggled out...
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Alex. Up to now, I hadn't even looked at your ages. You are young enough to find a new wife and all. But she is at the end of the road. She is turning 50. Say what you will about she looks good for her age. Women at 50 are done. The looks, if they haven't completely faded, are going to be gone in 5 years. She's too late. She will not be happy with the way life treats her once she is single. She will be begging you to take her back. But by then, you may well have moved on.
But she is at the end of the road. She is turning 50. Say what you will about she looks good for her age. Women at 50 are done. The looks, if they haven't completely faded, are going to be gone in 5 years. She's too late.
Oh no you didn't. Are you serious Sara?!!!!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
