Should OP know the truth?

[peacetoday]

WOW

thank you all so much for your thoughtful posts

I was ready to give up the idea until I read your post whitelight
and now I need to give it more thought
if my R with XH is really over..does it matter?
I would inform OW in the best way..i would have help with the letter and it would be
to the point
and in the end, she can walk away with Xh and the total truth
but the BS will be forvever over
and my side of street will be clean
she will never have to wonder if it WAS OK?
I will never have to wonder and be angry for not telling my truth\
and she can determine on her own if I am a pyscho

XH and I are going to parenting therapy in the next few weeks
I think I decided on therapist
I will not send anything until our sessions are complete

still in love:
thank you for visiting
I loved your desciption of the possible personality disorders of xh OW
your friendship and wisdom has helped throughout the journey

thank you all
peace