Just an accumulation of what you, WT, nds, distressed, and so many others have told me over and over again over the past year.
I don't know how I got included in there...14 months and I had no clue what detaching really was until a couple of weeks ago, and I still have a ways to go buddy.
Good stuff though. It's where we all need to start and I realize that now. It's too late for the marriage, but at least I understand where I need to be to get my ass through this and come out the other side intact...and I have no doubt that I will.