AK...I am sure that you have better advice from everyone here. You have so many supporters...and believe me I am reading the posts and keeping up...the only 2 cents I can throw in at this point is that re: the kids. My H is with the kids alot. Every Tues/Thurs. and sometimes in between...then every other weekend. He is being a better more attentive Dad and trying harder than he did in the R. It is good for them I suppose, but makes it all the more confusing for me..and maybe them too I guess in that I do NOT know why he has left us. I feel like it would be easier to just have him thinking that there are greener pastures out there...having some dillusions of granduer...(sp?) But no...he just doesn't want to be married to me. And that hurts, as you know! I feel like he is torturing me slowly...and being a better Dad now just to one up me. I wish he would just go away for a long time...doing his own thing. It would be so much easier. I don't really know how this is effecting the kids, they seem OK...but it has to be hard for them going back and forth...and confusing too. Just trying to say that the kid part or co-parenting is hard no matter what message he may or may not be sending to the kids. I know we are supposed to be forgiving, and I am...but it is getting harder for me not to be mad at the manipulation...it seems when trying to DB, we are giving them the best of both worlds...hmm????
