listen to puppy and others. DO NOT MOVE OUT! put it on her. Maybe now you can begin to detach more, but most importantly start doing things for yourself.
Also, don't be cold back to your wife. Living together will mean you still have to interact with your W on some level. In everything that you do, SHOW her you care, without EVER saying those words. Be upbeat and positive, even when it is the complete opposite of what you feel. It might be late in the ball game, and your trailing in points, but it's still not over yet.
