Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

You really think all this anger and hurtful statements are 'all good'? Please elaborate some more for me. It's hard to get my head around it.

What do ya' mean about a power change? You think she's flustered? I thought her anger was subsiding, but recently it has come out full force again. I'm still in her head? Yeah...she has reason to be angry about the past. I hope she's processing it, and continues to do so. Thanks...my text was honestly from my heart...and I was pleased with it too. It felt good. I'm gonna continue getting better...no doubt! She's recently been telling me that I haven't changed at all...and never will!

Maybe saying it was "all good" is a bit of a stretch, but I mean it's good you clearly evoke such emotion in her. Remember, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. Hate and love are close cousins.

What I mean about the power shift is that you're acting calm and confident, and she's ranting and raving. Seeing you this way is infuriating her. She definitely has a LOT of anger to process, and it's probably going to take a long time, but from what I can tell, you've gotten to place where you can wait, AND keep improving and enjoying your life.

I knew what you meant...it's just hard to get my head around it! Yeah...she obviously still has lots of anger. Coach says it's a good thing too!

I do feel calm and confident...and she is still ranting and raving sometimes. I feel a difference in myself, especially in dealing with her. It feels better. I am in the place that you mentioned futureunknown...and I will definately keep working on myself to become better...and I'll continue to enjoy my life as much as I can under the circumstances. Thank you for keeping up!