You must not be there yet. When he gets there he will KNOW how much he has grown. Introspection doesn't mean we have to constantly look at faults or beat up on ourselves. It also can mean we accept ourselves as we should accept others. It is time for John to start giving himself the correct self talk. "There is nothing wrong with me now. I only thought that there was something wrong with me because my wife rejected me and rejection hurt my self esteem."'
Tiume to stop beating up on himself and calling it introspection.
It is a good feeling and very mature when you can get to the point that you can accept yourself unconditionally and be able to tell yourself that you ARE ok. Just the way you are....
