confused.....want to do something.....

[MsMelancoly]

Hi orchid1, I've popped in on your sitch now & again. I was kinda in the same sitch you are now. I never wanted a D, but went along with my H (I actually took over getting it done). In the end, I saw it as the only option left to move forward to ..... somewhere......

In my sitch my XH could see D as the only way out. Out of what, his guilt & unhappiness ... maybe...... probably ......

The other path, working on our M, never seemed to be in his view & I don't think he knew how to.

On D day, I was fine & he was sick to his stomach. I know he finally realized that he didn't try to save our M & that a D did not automatically change the love he felt for me. It's still there. The plus side, I can no longer be the blame of his unhappiness.

I have no advise other than to stay strong & keep pushing forward w/your PMA!