My W decided to try the my weekday dance venue this past week. I told her that would be fine as long as she understands that we're not going as partners, and that I am there to practice and build and maintain my network. I ended up dancing several dances with her, as I knew she was new to this venue.
The next evening, I agreed to teach her friend some basic cha cha steps. After the lesson, I asked my W to return the favor and help me with some moves I had recently learned. She was helpful, and now I'm more confident in putting those moves on the dance floor.
There has been ongoing conflict between the two of them regarding the dancing. He has been a free spirit dancer, and my W wants him to learn some ballroom basics. He takes some guidance from me, and after realizing how difficult it is to learn dancing, he is discouraged and tells my W she is being too critical, and threatens to quit dancing. My W does give detailed feedback, and is trying to mold him in her image.
I told my W I would not be going to visit her brother and family this weekend at the picnic. I've decided that my free time is limited with the cooking job, and don't want to miss a night of dancing to attend an event where my presence is not essential, or to visit relatives I see yearly, and don't have much in common with.
My back problem is slowly getting better. It still hurts to sit for a length of time, but the shooting pain has been replaced with a dull ache in the buttock. The chiropractic 2X/week is helping. The daily walking is essential. Whenever I feel tension or aching in my lower back, I pay attention to my body and practice my yoga poses. My guess is that I need to also focus on poses that strengthen the back, and to personalize my routine for what my body needs.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
