Thank you so much the post above and for your best wishes for my health. I am still in quite a lot of pain and am on consistent pain killers but it is keeping things in obeyance for the time being. but its struggle; I am no as mobile as what I would ideally like to be. yes, its important I guess to be reminded that my H is in a form of crisis. I am fighting very hard against my own demons to GAL and trying hard not to take his relationship with OW into my immediate sphere. My H has and is making it quite clear that he does not want to be a part of that sphere. My Mum and I took my elderly neighbour out for a gorgeous lunch today, it is a glorious summer day here. She is 90 and is nearly fully blind but an amazing woman and great chat. She is a real inspiration. My H has been very close t her over the past 6 years. I think that its important to note that he hasn't said one word to her since leaving 6 months ago. She was a joy to spend time with and it made me feel good inside. I am a loving, giving, good person. I dont play games. I care about people and their feelings.He has lost sight of that. Interestingly, something I forgot to mentioned in the last posting. My H mentioned in mediation yesterday about our sleeping arrangements in the house. My h has always been a chronic snorer and has never tried to fix it in the ten years that we have been together; hence I have for teh large majority of our marriage needed to sleep in a separate bed for my own health. We have had a room built in the garden with a bed, I often slept out there. I was so sad. I missed him. For over a year before he left I slept out there. He used to come out to be with me but rarely. He made a comment yesterday about where we are all sleeping. there is an attic bedroom above our D's bedroom where my H used to sleep. I mentioned that I had slept there quite a few times to be near our D. He freaked out. "how dare you sleep in my bed? That is my bed and my room. I would never presume to go and sleep in your bed!" When I reminded him that it wasn't MY bed he retorted "it is your bed, our room, all of your clothes are there, all of your possessions. It is your bed". I simply stated No, it is OUR bed, our marital bed. Dead silence.
Not sure what to make of all of that.......
God bless Snodderly, thanks for your ongoing support, wisdom and encouragement. I x
