H hasn't attended new meetings yet. Still going to the ones in his area because he still lives there during the week. Infact, he left this a.m. to go one back there but has one picked out for tommorrow afternoon.
One of the guys he was talking to before called him this week to see how he was doing. They had a long talk and H began to rethink things in a positive way when hearing someone being less rigid with him. H came home from IC feeling pretty good and having more insight into his behavior and thinking. Seems to be learning a lot. IC gave him materials to work on regarding relapse prevention etc.
Our relationship was put to another test with the church event last night - exh and I had to escort d down the aisle and we all had to sit together. Everyone handled it fine. On the way home, H mentioned how awkward things always are when we are all together - not just for himself, but everyone is that way. I just acknowledged that it is a fact and everyone has to find their own way to deal with it. No easy answers.
This a.m. he mentioned how complicated my life was and how hard it must be for me to deal with everyone and everything all the time. First time he noticed! So to acknowledge that fact he decided that it was W-DAy - everything is my way this weekend. I am such a bore - just want to get the chores done and putter around the house - unless the weather holds out for the pool. But after dealing with everything all week and a job, I just like to relax on the weekend and do things at my own pace. When H was drinking he always wanted to visit places and do things, and oh, right, drink or argue.Not like that now. He goes to meetings, helps me with chores, visits his mother, putters with me. He doesn't even seem to mind the kids when they are around, and has planned a cook out for all and their friends next weekend.
Last night was hard for me at d's church - they showed pictures, several people shared stories about each one, and brought back a lot of memories - had a strange feeling this a.m. when I got up, for a minute the house felt empty - like in the kids were out and it was just me and H. Strange thought about them not being here anymore soon. EEK! Growing Pains!
