Last night, I took out the Passionate Marriage book and read the Table of Contents to H to give him an idea of what the book is about. We're thinking that we will take turns reading each chapter and then discuss. We've formed our own bookclub for 2.
I also asked H, posed as a casual and non-accusatory question,
"If it were up to you, absent all the TV watching we do, how many times a week would you want to ML?"
He says: "Ummm ... I don't know ..."
Me: Well, just an idea?
H: I guess 4.
Me: (In my head: WOAH WAIT A BLEEPING SECOND - 4????) (Now aloud) Is that your real preferred #? You don't have to say 4 just because you think that you should want to ML often.
H: No really - 4.
Me: WOW - I would have said like 2-3 but I would not turn you down for 4.
H: Hmmph. Good to know.
Then we went to sleep.
Bottom line: I think that sex drive might not be the problem. Unless ... I'm the LD. I can't believe it.
