I had a rough night. It is so perfect to come here and read your posts. Thank you.
I am in agreement that I need to detach. For my sanity.
I am having a really tough time not judging H regarding our kids. I am their stability and they are so wonderful. I want to tell him, the only thing they are missing is having a stable and present father.
What are they learning? That when the going gets tough, men leave. That opportunism and partying with celebrities are the way out rather than dealing with reality. That running away with one finger pointed back in blame is acceptable. That constantly seeking validation and justifying abhorrent behavior by other peoples' reassurances actually vindicate you?
I don't know how to not say something. I know I influence him. It is hard not to try to slap him with regard to what is what is happening with our children.
He cares. He wants very much to think of himself as a good father.
