Sorry! We talked so long my phone died! Thanks for all your legal advice. I had a fun day today. Puppy, I think you're right. His niceness will last about 1.5 days until mediation. I guess I'll enjoy it while it lasts!
I decided I probably will wear a dress to mediation. One of my friends who's seen me in my dresses thinks I look fine in them. Just have to figure out which one. I'm at the point now I'm just so ready to get this over with....
Yesterday I volunteered at the theatre, and I was thinking how far I've come. I used to go there and cry half the time, just about a year ago. And yesterday I felt strong and happy. Today I'm feeling like a crazy person: happy, sad, stressed. I guess 2 steps forward and one step back some days. I went to church and they prayed for me, and that was good. The mediation is set tomorrow for 3 hours, but I'm so hoping it won't be that long. I feel that we're going to disagree about 99% of everything, and I'm trying to expect that and deal with it.
I picked up the kids this am and H was friendly again. Guess I've got about one more day of that. Hope everyone's having a great day today! Karen
I think if you go in there and treat it strictly as business regarding the welfare of your children and yourself you will be fine. Don't think of it as personal(even though we know it is).
Think of it this way...If you shoot for the moon and miss, you will land among the stars. If you only shoot for the clouds and miss, you may be tumbling back to earth!
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Let us know how mediation goes. Good luck. We'll be praying for you.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
We had some horrible storms today--to match my mood. Mediation was a colossal waste of time, even more than I thought it would be.
H wants the kids to attend public school full time even though his own expert said they should only be going one or 2 hours and S15 would have a difficult time even doing that. He wants temp. alimony rather than permanent. Won't help to pay on the copayments for medical and dental and therapies. Also wants custody of the kids Monday through Friday with me having them on weekends!!!!
Although the mediator said she was impartial in the start, she said what H proposes is very reasonable and a judge may order him to have custody and them in public school as our expenses are double now with the 2 households. I'd hate to see a mediator if they were partial!!!
My L is going to hold an emergency hearing to help order that he help pay the copayments, I literally don't have the money to at this point, and I'm hoping they will order him to pay at least half. I've been paying all of them for 6 months now and just can't do it anymore.
That is unbelievable!!! This was a court-appointed mediator? She sounds like the private mediator that my xW hired last year -- in fact, yours sounds even more biased! I didn't think that could be possible.
Your H is going for broke, it looks like. He's going to ask for the moon and the stars while hoping he gets something in between as a compromise. Seems to be the standard practice, sadly. The mediator we saw on Thursday advised me that if our case goes to trial, I would be forced to do a lot more than merely defend myself against xW -- she said I would effectively have to go on the offensive, to prove xW to be a bad parent too, just as she is now trying to prove me to be a bad parent. I hate this, but it is a reality check I need to cash. This will get ugly, very ugly, as the both of us have to now tear each other down.
I hate this -- it didn't have to be this way...
In your case, it sounds like your H is also going on full offensive. His demands are ludicrous, but he must think he can settle for something between those insane demands and what he has now. He is an @ss, isn't he?
If there's any justice in this world, these people would be slapped down so hard they'd have to unbury themselves.
Puppy, I think you're right. His niceness will last about 1.5 days until mediation. I guess I'll enjoy it while it lasts!
Hope everyone's having a great day today! Karen
