Hi, SC,
I just read 25's looong post from a few days ago, and although I don't know much about legal stuff, I agree with everything she said that I understood.

You seriously need to learn detachment, girl. Do yourself a big favor and study up on it big time. Don't contact him if you don't have to for business or kid welfare, and DO NOT talk to him about feelings or R, past, present, or future, at this time. Zip the lips!! A phrase comes to mind here, and please don't take this the wrong way...

"How can I miss you if you won't go away?"

Start focusing on YOUR life, not his.

Peace,
Dawn

Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
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