Hi stuck When my H discovered my EA he gave me 24 hours to decide whether to say or go. I thought hard and realised that the OM and me would not be able to sustain a R long-term so decided to stay with my H. I didn't resent my H over this although was very sad not be be able to see or talk to the OM. It took me just over a year to get over this. Once that was done I was ready to recommitt fully to my H. Sadly it was too late and my H had already made moves to leave me.
Describing the fog lifting is sooo appropriate, one day I simply looked at my H and felt the love return, but I didn't tell him, I was never good at talking about my feelings, something I,ve since worked hard to improve.
When my H wanted to leave I told him this and suggested dates to try and rekindle what we'd had. We went out several times, but each time it ended in disaster and we argued more than we'd ever done whilst we lived together. Resentments on both sides were bought to the surface, I thought that this was a positive, we could discuss it and move on I thought. My H took this as another sign that our R was dead.
Maybe it's too late we both wanted the same thing but the timing was wrong?
