K4D Rising #2

[25yearsmlc]

So, Kevin what tools/skills did you pick up from your AA meeting? Did they have any ideas for you to follow up on? I have never been to an AA meeting but I think they would have some topics/ideas of things/homework for yourself to work on.

Why yes there is a "topic" or step (of the 12 Step program) that is discussed each week. People share what that step meant for them or how it is challenging them. They give tips on what helped them. At each meeting the Serenity prayer is said, and people are encouraged to share and learn. I have not ever been to a meeting that did not teach me something I needed to hear.
Doing the steps help you in LIFE and so does practicing the serenity prayer. Detaching is part of it and you read an AA book, the "Black Book" and it too discusses how drinking or using affects you spiritually and emotionally and all aspects of your life. It cannot but help you. You do NOT have to be an alcoholic or addict to benefit from attending meetings and that is why they have Open meetings at some places so not drinkers can attend and learn. Recovery is a process that begins with the cessation of drinking/using but that is hardly the main part of it and it is but one of many many "Steps" necessary. If all you do to "recover" is stop drinking, you are what is known as a "Dry alcoholic" and you are not in recovery. For you to say nothing means you didn't go or you didn't listen... I mean You have to really work hard to RESIST AA to learn nothing from it...or just be so preoccupied with your new obsession. I have to wonder if the reason your wife was not so interesting to you while you were married is b/c you had booze but now that it is gone, you have replaced your addiction. WIth her. Suddenly she is essential to your happiness but when you were married, the booze was enough...Pay attention to your life Kevin, it is the only one you're getting and you're almost in the 2nd Act...and you don't appear to be directing or starring in your only show.


In addition, I believe you can go to more than 1 meeting a week just like you can or should be able to go to C more often than you have been.

Why YES you can attend countless FREE meetings as often as you like. The standard advice is to attend at least one per day for 90 days...that's correct, "90 meetings in 90 days"...and then you adjust to your schedule as it fits but it IS THE PRIORITY in your life. For life. Kevin, are you close to anyone else in your family? If not, why not? If so, call them.
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I was going to my IC once a week for 5 months and now I have been going once a month. This is tough but seems to me you're making it much more worse than it needs to be.
Do any passages you read ever jump out at you or speak to you? I know you said you read the Bible, are you getting anything out of it? Its one of the many great resources, people have been pointing out to you on your threads.