hey MB, I'm sorry to hear how you are feeling. definitely check out the iron thing, and your blood pressure. if you are getting dizzy after standing up, I've had that from time to time all my life. I used to be anemic when I was young so it happened a lot back then. Also, had you been ill recently? it could be due to an inner ear issue.

I agree with not taking the ADs. only do that as a last resort. Alive gave the best help, exercising, eating healthy, and relaxation techniques.

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- I really do try not to "push." (THERE'S what I was looking for above. He says, I push and push until I get my way. Fair statement of my past.)


okay, sorry to bring this up again, but by the way, if we read something we don't like, there may be a reason for it. so we really should reflect on those things even more. I'm glad that you agree with the boys, they are right.

Let's say that you had been this way (the new you) all along. It would probably be just fine and he wouldn't feel pushed at all, HOWEVER, since you WERE pushy in the past, and for how long will matter too, anything you do will seem pushy. It's like the nagging thing, if a wife has nagged for years, and then she changes and tries to say things in a better way, he's still going to think she's nagging because that is what he has heard for all those years. It's kinda like pavlovs dog, even though there is no more food coming, the dog keeps salivating when he hears the bell.

So, I agree that you need to just let H lead, almost in an extreme way so that he can REALLY see the change, and then you guys can start meeting in the middle.

also, you mentioned you Tear up a lot. I'm kinda concerned about this. I know this is tough, but we need to get you to feeling happy and enjoying life. It's okay to be sad occasionally, but not a lot. so is this like everyday or once a week? Why not think about getting away for a day or something? when you ARE feeling good about yourself, what are you doing different? when you aren't feeling good, what is happening that you can change?

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."