WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[sandi2]

Stuck has been giving you excellent advice! I'm kind of proud of him since I feel like I helped raise him... (Just kidding, Stuck)

I don't want to just be friends with the woman I love. But I will cross that bridge when I get there.

When you said this, it reminded me of my H telling me that he had no intentions of being "friends".....if I left him. It shocked me and it hurt. I think it was a reality check I needed. Oh, I fantasized about life with the OM, but it was only a dream. I think I knew all the time that it could never work out between me and OM.....but I stubbornly held on to the fantasy.

I see your wife having way too much contact with you to be all that serious about D you. She "finds" excuses to contact you. All that business with her feet and her back.......bologna! Oh, she may have pain.....but it's funny she turns to you to help her out. I can tell you that when I was an almost WAW....there was no way I wanted my H to touch my feet, my back,..or anywhere else! I did not want to be anywhere around him, or even hear his voice. That is how women are if they really are fed up with their H's and are serious about leaving. I know she's left you, but something is not right about this. She wants to be around you too much for me to believe she truly wants a D. She can find "friends" in other people....right? So, why is she there so much and why is she calling and TM so much? Maybe you don't see much possibility....but I do. I think she needed to see some changes in you and that she needs to get some issues in her head straighten out. I believe the silver lining is growing, so don't give up.

Take care,
Sandi