Well I've gotten through 50 pages of SSM ... and I'm not convinced that is describes our relationship.
I don't know how to assess whether my H is HD or LD. Should I just ask him how many times a week he would ideally like to ML? Should it be a whole conversation? Honestly, although I am potentially HD I probably could "get by" on 1/week if it was goooooooood. It is quality for me, not quantity. I also really think that I need to know that he's doing w/ me and me only. Not w/ porn. I don't want to be the runner up.
