WOW...This got hot real fast. Everyone has a good point. I think a few that need to be thought of first are...
1) AFWAW doesn't want to date someone else...he is not there yet and still cares for his wife and hopes this will go away...it is not.
2) AFWAW needs to be careful in jumping into another relationship...he is retirement eligible and could find himself losing a good portion of his retirement...even for a short marriage if he is active duty, marries someone else and then divorces later.
3) AFWAW is a married SNCO in the USAF. For him to become involved with someone else sexually while still married is a violation of Art 134 of the UCMJ.
According to the UCMJ...A marriage exists until it is dissolved in accordance with the laws of a competent state or foreign jurisdiction. (Bottom line...you are married until divorced)
Maximum punishment.
Dishonorable discharge, forfeiture of all pay and allowances, and confinement for 1 year.
(No, he will not get punished...as long as he is not in a supervisor role over this 27-yr old)
John, Everything everyone is telling you is correct...perhaps dating might make your W come home. No one knows. No two situations are the same. Don't forget you are a SNCO in the USAF and you have a different set of rules to follow. Doesn't matter what your W is doing...you don't have permission to break the rules just because she is...
Make your decisions based on your wants and needs...forget the hot sex with a 27-yr old. That one and another dozen will still be there when you get a divorce. I know she doesn't in any way work for you are the possibility exsist for her to work for you...correct. Not allowed and you know it.
Get you thoughts together and make something happen...with your current relationship. End it if you have to but don't play these games. Decide what you want to do...if it is your W tell her what you want. If she doesn't agree go file. Get your divorce and then go date. Dont' forget you are not a civilian and have a different set of rules to follow.
...as usual; take care of D, stay away from the booze, work on your whole-person concept and, enjoy life...life is TOO short for this crap. You are almost 6-mths into this...end it one way or the other...you are the one letting it go on not your wife.
