I hope that you will have no more storms and branches coming off your trees. At least you have some nice neighbours who help you with clearing up the mess.
I am so sorry about your friends brother who is so ill. I will keep him in my thoughts.
I read your post. It is very strange what kind of OW your XH has. Like you I just cannot understand how a MLCer's brain functions.
At the beginning I was also uncomfortable going out on my own, but my confidence grew and now I can go almost everywhere on my own. However, the only thing I don't like to do is going to a dancing on my own. I would feel terribly uncomfortable doing that. But you should pull yourself together and go out at least to eat. Sometimes one gets to know quite some nice people.
Recently I saw a TV programme on "flirt coaching"! The coach said that one can start a conversation with something simple like "isn't the weather….." or "is this seat occupied?" etc. and then the conversation is rolling. I tried it before but sometimes the opposite does not respond and then it gets me nowhere – LOL. The coach also said that humour usually gets a good response. Although the coach was talking more about how men should approach women I still use the same "tricks". Usually I get a laugh if I say something funny and it also breaks the ice.
I will pop in occasionally but not very often. However, I guess I will be lurking. I wish you all the best and hope that one day you will also get the nerve to go out on your own.
