She looked hurt!!!! What about the hurt she has caused you and your children and even your extended family? (I bet you thought this already.) Your WAS sure isn't seeing things from your point of view, is she!? Sign of MLC, perhaps? She wants her cake and eat it too. Have your undying attention, as well as, the OM's or any other person, and not be called on the betrayal, etc.
Just keep to what is best for you and your children in the long run. Ask yourself the question, "will going to dinner meet my needs, and the needs of my children down the road?" For instance, will the kids read into the various dinners, etc. a possible reconciliation and keep them hyped into that possibility and not moving on? You might dissapoint them in the short term, but in the long run, they will be able to move on.
'Eh, just a thought thrown out there ---- you, of course, know your sitch better than any of us, and you know your children better too, but sometimes one does need an objective viewpoint. Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Sign of MLC, perhaps? She wants her cake and eat it too. Have your undying attention, as well as, the OM's or any other person, and not be called on the betrayal, etc. 