Glam, you may never get answers to all these questions. He has proved himself time and time again to be a weak and spineless man. It would not suprize me that he wanted you to find out, leading a double life has obviously been a great strain on him and more so since he now has no job. Do not blame yourself for any of this. You are probably right about him keeping her and now he can't so that is why it has all come to light. At least now you have some answers to a few questions , like why he never stayed the night, never had any money etc. You must get as much help and advice as you can, protect yourself and children at all costs. I believe Trusting had a similar thing happen to her with the discovery of a "love child" who was 8 years old! We are all here for you, try to take care of yourself,you need to keep healthy to see this through. I think he has a very manipulative streak and fooled so many people,so don't be hard on yourself. When we love someone so much we only see what we want to see. Get yourself checked out asap like Laughing said. Keep posting so we know you are ok.
