Look, I am going to say right off the bat that I am in a very bad mood. I have had a horrifying two days, a difficult dr's appt, a not so nice exchange with my H y'day and today is our 10 yr. wedding anniversary and we did have a decent exchange. So pardon me if this is blunt.

You just started C'ing and you havent even gone to AA yet. A few weeks ago you were on cloud 9 because the D was dismissed and you said you were going to DB your ass off (which you have not yet done).

Now you read ONE case where it worked (RobD) when he filed against his WAS. First of all, if I am not mistaken I "know" RobD from another forum and have followed his story for some time now. Second of all, RobD *HAS* been properly DB'ing from the very start. You are comparing apples to oranges.

There mere fact you said that it would "shock the crap" out of your W implies you are looking for some sort of jolt or reaction and I can promise you it wont be the one you are looking for.

You are all over the place and desperate and I feel sorry for you. If you are done with your W then you are done and if that really happens to be the case you would, in a quiet and dignified manner, file the papers and just get it over with. The mere fact you posted here to see if it "might work" speaks volumes.

Here you are on a Friday afternoon trying to come up with a new scheme to win your W back when she is probably out bike riding with her 55 year old male "friend".

Any C'ing worth their weight would tell you that you are far too emotional, far too unstable and far too weak to file for D right now. It is purely an emotional reaction and tactic on your part.

You want sparks to fly with your W? File for the D to "shock the crap out of her". Sparks *will* fly and you will be sorry they ever did.

Would you please try and get it together for ONE day and just NOT talk/think/obsess about your W.

You are like the guy that is always looking for the next way to make millions of some scam when all you need to do is go to work each day and put in an honest 8 hours. See what I mean?

I have seen somebody jump off a bridge and only get a few scrapes and bruises. But the other 100 that tried it died on the spot. Weigh your odds.

The LBS that filed for D and it somehow brought their spouses back practiced proper DB'ing for a very long time.