Would not taking anymore phone calls and filing for D be a wake up call? Would it be a 180 on my part and make W step back and think? I've seen it work for others on here as recently as today. That would be a sign of strength and being over it wouldn't it?

She would be shocked as crap if I did that. I wonder if it would have any affect on her. I mean if I told her if she is going to continue to go out with other men then I am done and file.

Any thoughts? I'm not looking for sarcasm.

Or is that controlling and manipulative? Would she not care anyways? Would it garner respect from her? It is such a huge risk though. But would it pay off? What are the chances?

Ok, I'm outa here and off to my AA meeting.

Take care,

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...