The kids (S/11, D/10, D/6) know something is up. As you know they are very keen on everything that is going on and I am picking up they think it is strange that mommy is housesitting.
She always travels with her job a lot in the summer and will be gone up to three weeks at a time, so they are used to her being gone during the summers.
And with summer here they have lots of time on their hands (as I do) and I am trying to keep them busy with play dates, sports and activities. Kinda like GAL for dad and the kids.
W finally called this AM and chatted like all was well. I am really trying not to ask her questions like what she did last night, and not be so curious as to what she is thinking or doing. She has said many times that I am overbearing even though it feels like to me I have made a 180 on this.
Today I went to MC alone after W went last week alone and C supported and validated that my wife is a WAW and is struggling with parenthood, being married to me and is having a MLC. C supported me and even though she isn't a DB coach, she made me feel like I am doing a good job of applying the DB techniques and encouraged me to be patient and keep up the good work.
W called after my IC and was very curious as to how it went. I am trying to go a little dim (not dark) and I think it has helped.
On another note, my wife has instituted a do not touch rule and has had it in place for about three months. I am struggling with this very much and getting frustrated, but feel like I need to be patient and not push, or pursue, no matter how badly I desire to even hold her hand.
As I stated above, I really feel like this is a major test, and if I can keep my cool, not pursue and let her have time to her self while she is house sitting, and then next week I am taking the kids on a 5 day camping / vacation hopefully it will help both her and me.
Thanks for the support....it does help me A LOT to come here and read about the struggles that we are all going through.
As my C keeps telling me, breath in and exhale and say over and over "I am so greatful" with every breath.
Have a great weekend and hopefully you can enjoy a bike ride between rain showers.
