I hate my H

[Done in VA]

Thanks so much for your input, Sandi.

Do you suspect an EA? If he isn't interested emotionally with OW, he is a prime target. We'll talk more about that later.

I have no idea. Although, I have now stopped snooping, I was for awhile. He started a new job about 3 months ago (after the bomb) so it's not like there would be a continuous coworker infatuation. Before he got the new job, he worked with me (not that there couldn't have been SOMEONE), but not your typical office situation. He is not sneaky, doesn't use the computer at home, leaves his cell phone laying around unlocked(which I have checked previously & never found anything), I checked cell phone records - nothing. He comes home straight from work, that sort of thing. People have said he may have a 2nd phone, but I searched high & low & never found one. I eventually decided snooping would eat me alive. Just like WAH, I can't control how he feels or what he does so if he has A, there is nothing I can do anyways. I know anything is possible & know that he is a prime target for some sort of A. The funny thing is - I am as well so trying to keep myself out of tempting situations.

In reading the dos & don'ts I am already applying the majority of them. Should I mirror what he does...or simply never call him? That's where I get confused.