Just found out wife filed

[RobD70]

One thing I learned in all of this is to give them what they want and take them for their word even though you know they will regret it later. WAS have to learn things the hard way.

If I had to do it again, I would had filed for the D as soon as I hear about the A to make a point that I wasn't going to put up with it. I would had still acted like a sap the first month to show that her leaving did affect me but after that I would had put my foot down and worked with the assumption of getting a D. I think that would had woke her up to what she was doing sooner and gain back her respect.

Being their friend after finding out about an A shows weakness which is a big turnoff. I am now a believer of using tough love with a WAS as it has giving me the best results, even though I wasn't trying. We are going to MC since the danger now is me leaving her lol.

I did ignore her and it got under her skin. When I did respond is was cold and to the point. That had a much larger affect on her than I had thought. When I gave up on her and stopped trying that's when things turned around. I think must of us doom ourselves by trying to hard to fight reality. Give in to your sitch and things tend to fall back in place. Funny that.