Yeah, WTF? I've been unhappy for long enough. Thanks, Gucci!
Your welcome..
I sure wish you would just listen to me and follow the plan. I have done this more than you will ever know. Saved quite a few.
Matter of fact I just helped my own 22 year old daughter get her boyfriend come BEGGING back to HER. EVEN my own daughter had doubts about he ole Gooch's advice. HOWEVER, she did follow it. Of course it worked like a charm..
Want to know what she told her mom? (who then told me)
Dad was RIGHT.. How does he know this stuff mom? I would never have believed that BF would have been calling me wanting to get back together....
I just smiled and told her to tell our daughter that I don't tell these secrets about men to very many women. Just the ones that need it...
The story was that HE was involved with a couple of other women and she didnt' know about it. When she found out, she called me and asked me what she should do......
Gooch: "Tell him that you do not share your love when in an exclusive relationship. Don't call him. Start DATING IMMEDIATELY. If he does call, be polite, cut him short by saying.. Hey I was just in the middle of ________ (fill it in with anything busy) and I can't talk right now,but I will call you back.... and then DO NOT call back"
It took about 4 or 5 weeks. He was testing her resolve.. He started calling and she did exactly as her dad told her to do. (even though she didn't FEEL like it)(good girl for listening to your daddy who has YOUR best interest at heart)
She casually dated and just went out and had fun. Nothing serious in her mind, but she did it anyway....
Guess who came POUNDING on her door WANTING to talk and begging and pleading and yada yada yada....
YEP.....
Guess who NOW has the power of negotiation in that relationship?
THAT is how it works AFWAW... I have seen it again and again and again.
Why do we not see more results on this site? ask yourself that question.
The answer is because we don't see people applying STRONG decisive, I will not share attitudes. Too much "hanging and hoping and oh see how much I changed" nonsense....
My daughter didn't need to change to get him back. She needed to show him that she valued her worth and self esteem more.
Same as you need to do...
Go out. Date this 27 year old. I don't believe I have told you to marry her or ask for a committment on the first hour of the first date. CASUAL... It isn't rocket science to go out with a woman for a drink or coffee or whatever. Keep it light.
Don't listen to people on here telling you not to date, and all the while giving you advice on how to apply principles to get a woman back that has blatantly been having sex with other men and has treated you like you are a nobody. Lying, cheating,using you and not being a good mother.
Given the choice.. Any sane man would take a woman who likes him and SHOWS and wants to show him interest, than in a woman who would sink so low that she would not only have sex with another man or men, but then tell YOU that she is in love with him.. WHILE the OM is MARRIED...
It is your WIFE who you should not be dating... GET IT?
