Oh yeah I am in. The comments could run the gamut from snarky to lovingly detached plus the "eat sh!t and die" card you can rip up. Then make a card out of Tyvek so they can't rip it up,
Coach, that is my belly-laugh-of-the-day!!
Thank you!!
too funny...
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Thinker: I said the same thing about the greeting cards in my 3rd or 4th thread, around the time of Mother's Day - and the oddest thing is that I was just saying the same thing to my mother on a telco day before yesterday. I'm up for it - seriously. Talk to me u know where - if you can manage the business / venture cap / sales piece, I can honcho the creative side.
Oh yeah I am in. The comments could run the gamut from snarky to lovingly detached plus the "eat sh!t and die" card you can rip up. Then make a card out of Tyvek so they can't rip it up, cards with music (lot's of ideas there). Plus on-line greetings. I like it. Plus I got ideas for other lines. Cheers
Originally Posted By: SmileysPerson
Thinker: I said the same thing about the greeting cards in my 3rd or 4th thread, around the time of Mother's Day - and the oddest thing is that I was just saying the same thing to my mother on a telco day before yesterday. I'm up for it - seriously. Talk to me u know where - if you can manage the business / venture cap / sales piece, I can honcho the creative side.
Originally Posted By: AlexEN
Thinker, love the idea... I'll work with you on the marketing plan...
-A
That would be one H@ll of a GAL activity!...
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
Let me know if you need a print or web designer. I'd consider this a pro-bono project for the good of the community.
It would be fun to do email and Faceb cards too. Maybe an interactive dart board with WAS's photo on it. Heh heh!
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
So I just finished putting together a "friendi" present for my W for our Anniversary tomorrow - a gift bag with a card (nice and friendi - "Have a great trip, have a wonderful time with your mom, Happy Anniversary") , a travel mug, a starbucks gift card (since there is now a Starbucks at every rest stop) and some chocolate and biscotti for the road.
And then a few minutes ago, Mrs. Thinker came in...
Mrs. Thinker: "Um...I have a question."
me: "OK"
Mrs. Thinker: "Um...did uh...you um get me a um...card...um....for...um..."
me: "For our anniversary tomorrow?"
Mrs. Thinker: "uh...Yes"
me: "Yes. I did -- one that is in keeping with the mood in our marriage right now -- but still, 11 years is 11 years."
Mrs. Thinker: "Hmmm. OK"
and then a few minutes later (as it it is something completely new)
"I have to go out shopping for a bit. I'll be back in a half-hour or so"
Too funny
Anyway, I personally have 0 expectations for the day. Even a year ago before the bomb she gave me a nothing card that said nothing, and she skipped fathers day all-together. Nothing for Valentines Day. A last-minute card and gift "from the boys" for my Birthday, etc. At first it hurt, but now it's just what I expect.
Now that she knows that I have something (she thinks just a card) It'll be interesting to see what she comes up with (if anything). I've been through the card shelves at the stores near us myself. There's nothing appropriate there!
Poor Mrs. Thinker. So much stress and confusion!
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
No expectations but it sure sounds like she's getting you something. I hope all turns out good.
- Our anniversary is 7/16 and I have no idea what will transpire (expect nothing). It's a 300-meter target right now but I'll be watching your sitch carefully and hope to learn something.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
After 7 days without posting or (due to the saving grace of bad connectivity at the beach house) even reading the DB boards, the boys and I are now back at home. Mrs. Thinker arrives back from her visit with MIL tomorrow night.
Just a couple of thoughts / updates:
It was a great week, with my whole extended family - perfect weather, great times, etc. It was also the first time in 12 years that I attended one of these events without my W - and honestly, it was probably more relaxing and fun for me for it. The absence of stress showed me how much stress I have felt in the past when my W and I were together with my family and I had to juggle the competing goals of fitting into the dynamics in my family, and keeping my W happy.
I was also surprised at how infrequently I really thought about her this week, how little I worried about my sitch, and how much I thought about the women I saw around me on the beach. It seems to run in parallel with some of the discussions I just read on @smileysperson's thread. For my part, I am still committed to the M, but Man!! am I starting to fantasize about it!!!
As mentioned above, we had very little connectivity where I was - for some reason my network just wasn't working. I was pretty happy not to receive calls, texts, etc, but the lack of easy communication drove my W crazy all week. Ironic -- if I am traveling and she is at home, then I can barely get her to answer the phone, but when she was traveling (and away from the kids) and was not able to get through to me, she was very agitated and took it personally. I would periodically get a connection and fund multiple anxious / angry voice messages - "you aren't answering" "Please carry your phone with you" "I haven't been able to reach you for days" etc.
Each evening I found a spot with connectivity and called her and put the boys on so she got a chance to talk to them. Other than the few words we exchanged to set up / conclude those calls, I really had almost no interaction with her.
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A week ago I mentioned that we had our Anniversary ("Oh what do do for a card, etc"). Just to follow up on that: Mrs. Thinker did end up getting me a card - an appropriate blank one on which she penned her own thoughts:
- "It's strange to be spending our anniversary apart" - "I'm really at a loss at the moment" - "My mind is blank when it comes to talking about us. I'm simply tired" - "I don't know what the future holds for either of us, so let's just enjoy the summer and precious moments with our beautiful boys" - "I'm sad not to be with you all this week"
I thanked her for the card, it really was classily done, and it echoed a lot of the same feelings I have been having myself recently. She also gave me a box of chocolates from a handmade chocolate store we both like - which was actually the first idea I had for a gift for her.
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Hope you all had a great week. It felt good to take a holiday from the DBing (and the boards... ) for a while.
Now I'm back.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
) for a while.