"Yes, I do believe that he felt that way with me, also. However, I didn't feel the need to contact him every 5 min to make sure he was where he said he would be."
It was a somewhat redundant question. As you know people will "act" differently in situations. The outcome of how they "act" can bring them to the same feelings though.. right? So if we look at that.. we find that no matter what the "situation" is he will most likely feel trapped. The only person that can change that is him. Not you.. not her. This is his issue to solve. For the sake of argument we can say she calls him every 5 min's.. you bi*tched at him. You both were/are communicating with him the best way you knew how. He is "reacting" the same way to her that he did to you. He is looking "outside" of his R with her for something also. (The "Fathers day sex") How long will it be before she is wearing your shoes? There is nothing that you can do to change this. Nothing. Stand back and watch with a smile on your face. If anything.. you have to have learned that you need to get to that low point before you seek to change things. Protect what you have with a vengeance.
"This is very true. I don't know why we all bend to his will, exactly. It's not like we get anything from it. Maybe it's because we fear what we would get if we don't bend to his will. This makes much more sense. If he is unhappy...he makes EVERYONE unhappy."
It is the "fixer" in you. I have it too. See me still posting? It is kinda like that old adage that women like the "Bad Boy". In high school you always saw the pretty girl with the "Tool". Everyone knew he was cheating on her. He always talked down to her. She always came back for more though. I was not in the popular crowd. My best friends were.. still are.. but when I look at those that were popular then.. they are hurting in life now. I just found out the other day that the guy that was voted most "everything" in high school committed suicide. The thing that we post about "here" (DB.com) took him from having "everything".. to taking his life. Don't let the "fixer" in you "take your life".
"Although, I often feel as though I'm using an erasermate to do so."
Bending? You forgive.. because you understand. Once you understand.. you don't let it happen again. If you find yourself forgiving over and over again.. for the same thing.. YOU are doing something wrong.
"I miss your posts, FG"
Thanks. I am trying to keep up.
Keep your head up...
And Always..
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
