Dday, don't know if he has someone now or not so I guess that is why I don't know whether to wait or not!! I do want my marriage back so bad!! I love him very much!
Ok, then and I'm sure I've said this before, you need to just let him be and live life right now for YOU and YOUR children. Your H is on 'mental leave of absense', that is the way you have to look at it. Nothing you can say or do can change that, only he can.
Detach, forget him and most of all forget his god forsaken step-mother, she has nothing to do with this.
If no one else is involved in a relationship sense then you need to ask yourself once and for all, if I love this man that much, am I willing to endure however long it takes for him to get better? I think you already know the answer to that question as it is. And thus you need prepare yourself for the possiblity he may not get better and come back. Simple fact is you can't do much about it, he's a big boy and reality will take care of him in due time. Take care of yourself and your kids, remind them their father loves them, but he is sick (fill in your own words of tenderness), and live the best you can for now for yourself and them.
Keep yourself as busy as possible with them and for yourself and time will pass quickly. Sitting and dwelling on this all the time will only slowly erode your sanity as well and then your kids will have 2 MIA parents.
Lastly, I still say you should have the step-mother barred from the court room, I had my XW's fiance with no problem.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
