TD Sweetie (hope you don't mind me calling you my pet name), I have an "assignment" for you, okay? Perhaps you do not see when you put yourself down in negative statements, but you are doing that. Look at your response post to my last one. You are a very smart lady and you know that b/c of one R where it was your S who chose to leave.....does not mean that "you" are not good at having other R's. I don't want you to fear the possibility of future R's with a man (and don't resist it and thus swing too far the other way by never getting emotionally involved trying to protect your heart). I only want you to be careful about jumping into something that could be a "rebound". It happens very often when broken hearts from previous R's are involved and the ones it happens to are not conscious of a rebound taking place. I think we humans want to get over the hurt and move on to another place and find happiness with another person so quickly that we do not see that we have rebounded into a R.

I'm not saying you were about to do that! Again....I'm feeling protective as if you were my own daughter and I'm giving out all my "wisdom"....(lol) cool I think you are such a special individual and I do not want you to give up your fight for the happiness you deserve. It will come.....I truly believe that.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Allow yourself times to feel negative without beating up on yourself and thinking you are weak, etc. I think that is part of the "process" also.

Will you be working on the weekends at your new job? Are you and your sister close?

Take care,
Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!