I haven't commented here because I really have no idea what to say that might help. Just know, that I'm here reading and supporting you no matter what you decide to do.
As to DBing with a 100% absent spouse....it's not about your spouse. It's about you. DB for yourself. It's the GAL activities and the 180's that you do that will help you grow as a person that will bring you out the other side of this with a new attitude.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!