Instead of grilling your D about why she doesn't talk to her Mom about the situation, which is yet ANOTHER opportunity for you to bash your W, why didn't you just reinforce that she can always come to you. The important things is that she has someone to talk to. And what about counseling for the girls? Have you followed up on that? I'm sure you haven't, because it doesn't match up with your agenda.
Once again, you blew an opportunity to forge a stronger connection with your D, because you were so intent on what YOU needed to know. For heaven's sake, you even make your D's feelings all about YOU.
And don't post that you didn't bash your wife. Your daughter just doesn't listen to what you say, she picks up on your tone and the questions you ask, and the implication that there's a problem with their Mom.
Your wife is a smart woman, she knows your D's don't want their parents to divorce.
Be available to talk to them, look into counseling. There might be others, a pastor, or another relative that your D's can talk with.
Wake up Kevin, this behavior is turning from pathetic to potentially harmful.
