Too many of us are just depressed for no reason. Whether it's hormonal, or our competitive society or what, we are just never happy with what we've got. And it is a shame.
Ughhh! So true. We live in a land of abundance. We should be happy as clams, right? However there's been studies showing the happiest populations aren't necessarily those with the highest incomes and standards of living.
Very subjective indeed but one example mentioned here:
In my own tiny universe, I feel happier than a few years ago despite the fact that things look worse on paper: ch13, possible divorce in the works, sold a bunch of assets, renting instead of owning, etc.
I don't know why. Something about accepting what I have is enough right now. It's just stuff and I can earn it back later. I still have kids, health, job, and my self worth. I have become stronger and more valuable to myself during this process.
There's still a long ways to go.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Yay! You and W are on for Retrouvaille officially. Big step.
I hope the flowers go over well.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
I am really trying not to get my expectations up here - not because I don't believe in Retro, but because I know my W. It would be completely in line with other things she has done to change her mind and decide the does not want to go and is not going to go.
So...
No Expectations
and
"Let it be" (Thanks Sara)
and
I'll be optimistic and happy about my own life.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
Think, I like the road trip package idea as an anniversary acknowledgment. It says, "Hey - I know you've got this 10 hour ordeal today...let me offer this to make it nicer for you. Happy Anniversary!" Then have the flowers waiting for her when she arrives wherever it is she's going. Happy flowers ~~~ not I LOVE YOU flowers.
Great idea about the greeting card line.
Cheers ~
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
Flowers ordered - a "Nice friendly mix including yellow roses", and a card saying simply "Happy Anniversary".
The Florist on the phone tried to add to it saying "and then should it say "Love, Thinker", and sounded a bit surprised when I said "No, just leave it at "Happy Anniversary"". Now off to do some shopping at Starbucks...
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I actually was not kidding about the greeting card line. It is fun to make wisecracks about that sort of thing here on the boards (could be the topic of a whole thread...) but all kidding aside I do think it is a needed product.
Sales could be online through a simple e-shop website.
Anyone up for a new business?
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
I'm surprised there isn't a S or DBish line by Hallmark. They've thought of everything else: Pets, Divorce, cards for one's StepDad's 1st M's Biological Son's Half-Brother's Significant Other's Coming-Out Day and what-not
I've always hated them all. Always go for Pretty-But-Blank cards
Would be interested in your feedback on the anniversary card (and the note!) idea for my stalled sitch over at Gardenerland.
Thanks!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Oh yeah I am in. The comments could run the gamut from snarky to lovingly detached plus the "eat sh!t and die" card you can rip up. Then make a card out of Tyvek so they can't rip it up, cards with music (lot's of ideas there). Plus on-line greetings. I like it. Plus I got ideas for other lines. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
