Yes, the SSM title alone isn't really right for your sitch, because 1x per week is definitely not starved.
You are actually starved for a different type of attention, intimacy, feeling of excitement from feeling his desire for you....but you are actually getting sex far more than many/most on this board. So I can see why your H would be like "whaaa...?" if he knows you are reading SSM.
Its complicated.
Mutual desire, shown with sexual polarity, set against a background of friendship, caring, and connection.
Even trying to state what "it" is in a nutshell makes it sound complicated (and that's just MY "it," each person's will be different, I suspeoct). A year and a half into our SSM recovery, my wife and I are up to a steady frequency of about twice per week with regard to sexual encounters. On the surface, it sounds like "problem solved!" but underneith, we still have much work to do.
I applaud you for coming here and working the problem EARLY in the marriage, before the "infection" spreads and before the two of you have *years* of bad history and old resentments to address. My SSM lasted 20+ years, and the chances of reocvery were truly slim --> your changes are far better.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
