Oh, I'd love your take on this too. He recently told me that he'd "come clean" about his "affair" (still not even acknowledging it was an EA) with the therapist to his friend who is a psychologist. None of his close friends were supposedly even shocked in the slightest. I guess they think he was justified in doing anything he wanted to because he's been so unhappy. No one can see how sick it was or how depressed he is. He also told his Mom about the affair and she had nothing to say. So my H took this to mean that she was ok with it. In all cases of disclosure to friends/family, he says that no one admonished his behavior or thought it was a big deal. So he took that to mean that no one was surprised or upset and that I must have done something pretty awful to him to make him do these things. His ego is amazing, isn't it?
He's lying. He either didn't tell them, or he "spun" it to such an extent that they're not getting the true picture from him.
Ask them -- I'd be SHOCKED if he told them the truth.
This is very much "script" -- the cheating spouse claiming to the betrayed spouse that other people are OK with what they are doing. My wife did it as well (about her parents), and when I asked them, it was 100% b.s.!!!
