SC I cannot say I am clear on all the details of this. I'm not. The benefits you are referring to that end in one year, are they the health care and BX or just the health care? Either way, you won't get rejected for med ins, though worst case scenario, you'll have to pay a COBRA like amount which can be put in the DIV agreement. You are getting something like 45% of the retirment, correct?
Your H sounds really odd to be saying he doesn't know if he loves you or the kids, etc. And pathetic and sad. Ouch. And it suggests a bit of MLCing but a lot of big underlying stuff there. Was he uncommunicative before all this? When did you notice the changes first? Were his long TDY's a good thing or did he grow apart the more you were geographically apart?
Sometimes people who are on their own A LOT, cannot mix again...
I don't have much else to say but to DETACH b/c the level of detail in your situation and the amount of energy going into all these machinations is beyond me. I wonder if you could maybe turn this over to God spiritually, and your L legally. Step out of the results and leave those up to others, while you simply do your best to GAL, move forward, and DETACH...seriously detach.
You are not doing that by all this..."stuff" going on and decision trees going around. Know what I'm saying? I am NOT suggesting your L is or is not covered by one document, or anything.
I'm simply asking who says someone is telling "the authorities" what, about your bankruptcy or the divorce, etc.??
Nor are the two legal events or documents necessarily connected. But I'm in no position to assess that. You'll have to trust your L. (If you do, you do...know what I mean?)
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
