No, I think it's crystal clear. Yes, I thought about money. That's why I hung around as long as I did. But at the end of the day I bolted because I didn't think you were scummy enough to actually take it. Boy was I wrong!
Quite common for the WAW to think in $ terms in planning their exit.
Originally Posted By: Coach
SP, The times I lost my cool the most was talking about the legal side of this because it revolved around how to split time with the kids and money. Two very emotional issues. Nothing wrong with saying how you feel and what you see as the consequences of this for all parties. I found out later it scared the Greek as well. At the time I didn't really pick up on that vibe but she admitted that it helped her think thru her choices.
Originally Posted By: Greek
Coach played hardball with me legally ~~~ it INFURIATED me, and scared me half to death. Did I think about it ahead of time ~~~ yes, sir. But reality bites.
Curious if he played attack or defense (i.e., who was the bigger wage earner?).
Originally Posted By: Greek
You have no obligation to help her feel better about the sh!t that is now hitting the fan. It is the REALITY of a move SHE made. Do not protect her from it and it sounds like you get that.
Absolutely! In fact that's where I would loose my cool when the WAW has this air of "entitlememt" - there's no obligation to validate these feelings.
Originally Posted By: SP
Pffffffffffffffw. Man, it was bad. And I don't even care. I'm glad I fought back. I'm glad I said what I said. I'm sort of tired of being noble and sh*t. I want to be an a**hole for a while.
Yeah, be a Bad A&% MF once in a while!
That was some barn burner. At any rate you are sitting pretty on the legal front. The WAW is the one hurting more in your case. I think you got it right the court really does not want to get involved unless something is brought in front of them and when this happens in the 10 minutes or so the judges have they tend to draw a line down the middle regardless of who's walking away and why. You can ask for want's called "temporary relief" - spousal and child support at the going rate starting from the day she moves out of the house. Anything else can be negotiated later.
