New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Carlos,

I briefly called my W tonight to discuss our link up next week when she'll drop off the boys to stay with me for 2 weeks. She was nice and pleasant. I just kept it short and said goodbye first.
I really wanted to talk more, but I thought I have to keep up with the DB techniques in LRT, try it, then watch and see what happens. I usually call every THU evening to say Hi to her (she asked me to do so 8 months ago)so I called to stay consistent.But I kept it short. I wonder what went thru my W's mind after I said goodbye first. Was it the right thing to do? Should I have asked her more how she was doing, etc?

Anyway, I am hanging in there after 1 year of separation. I just allowed myself for a few minutes to vent about how all this sucks and why doesn't my W get it that I love her more than before etc...

Then I stopped reacting emotionally and refocused on DBing. Can't just throw all this patience and change of attitude in a jiffy just because I am venting...Gotta keep the eye on the prize: work on myself, and getting my W back if at all possible.

Now is not the time to lose patience. 1 year is already a long time...

Thanks for reading.

JR09