Bagheera - I agree and appreciate your advice and candor. I absolutely do not want to do anything to damage my H's ego in the bedroom PLUS just getting to the bedroom is part of the challenge. We'll have time to deal w/ what happens when we get there later. He's a kind person and a "pleaser" so I want to make sure I am as sensitive as I can be. I let him know tonight that I was "going to get a book for us" (said with a bit of a casual happy smile). "Its called 'Passionate Marriage.' What do you think?" He says, "I think that sounds great!" I'm waiting for the "SSM" bomb b/c that title is TOO heavy but I'm reading it on the sly.
