K4D Rising #2

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Kevin--

I have to say, I admire 25, City, and the many others who still bother to post to you. You have had something like what--15 or 16 threads already, right? They are still telling you the EXACT SAME stuff they were telling you back in December when you first came on board. Yet, you continue to almost COMPLETELY disregard anything they say to you.

We all get that you miss your wife. We all miss our spouses. We all miss what we THOUGHT we once had. HOWEVER-- this is reality--whether you like it or not. Reading your threads is like watching a train wreck. As much as I want, I cannot look away. It is a real shame that you completely fail to acknowledge your complete co-dependence and need for detachment. You spout platitudes and do nothing to back them up.

Get over yourself Kevin. So what if the D got dismissed. IT MEANS NOTHING!! You still do not live in the same house, your W is still excluding you from things, your W is still seeing other men, your W does not believe you will change. You know what, I am beginning to doubt it, too. It is not that you CAN'T, it is that you REFUSE to. Go ahead, continue to wallow in self-pity and do nothing, all the while expecting your wife to joyfully jump back in your life because it is all you can think about.

FaithfulH told me something very profound once. Yes, the Prodigal's family wanted him to come home. BUT, that does not mean they sat around doing nothing. They got on with their lives as if he was never coming back. They learned to live without him, while hoping for his return.

You are squandering the prime opportunity to figure out who Kevin is--all because you cannot let your obsession go. Get over yourself and move forward. Otherwise, you will still be here, whining about how your wife won't take you back while the rest of us will have all moved on because we recognized the opportunities instead of the struggles in this season of our lives.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW