My first game plan was smothering and constant relationship talk (yes we went from bad to worse very quickly!), then I found this website. I think three months ago he also had a depressive episode, and was acting like a teenager. I stopped all physical contact as well.
In the last three months we were supposed to be giving our relationship a last chance, but whenever we would start to have friendship moments etc he would leave the room and back right off. Kind of like he had made up his mind us separating would be the answer already.
It has only been in the last couple of weeks since we have agreed to separate that he has relaxed, will chat to me on the phone about work and dreams, started to call me old pet names again and feels much more comfortable sitting in the same room watching TV with me every day. I am also getting hugs, although our dog just died so it may have been a series of friendship hugs but I will still take em.
Anyway, thanks again, I am note sure if I should encourage the upcoming household separation given it would be really difficult for our two little toddlers, although I could handle it ok. Should I leave the choice to him? I know he really feels like he wants to control his life for the first time, he has been perfectably capable but has not bothered until now.
