After reading your posts, I am just wondering if all of your W's actions are natural because she's so young. I mean, you went out with her for 2 years before you got married, so she was 19. And prior to that, she was M.
I'm not sure if it's a co-dependency issue or if she saw you as a "father-figure". I'm just saying.
It sounds like she has an "idea" of what the right thing is to do, but part of her also wants to sow her oats, so to speak. So she has new friends and is going out. Stuff that a typical 21 y.o. would do. I know you said that she's "mature" for her age, but honestly, at that age we're all learning how to become adults. There's alot of life lessons we learn in our 20's and it's during that time that we go out and experience them.
If you think it's bad now, wait till she hits her quarterlife crisis.
Just my 2 cents.
thank you stuck.
hmmm, this isn't the first time i've heard this or thought about it. i have a friend my age who is female and she brought this up last year when OM first surfaced. it is something i have considered.
honestly, i see myself as a 31yo in a 24 yo's body (not mentally, just physically) the W i believe is a 21yo trapped in a 24 yo's body. she's a few years ahead of the curve, but my female friend pointed out that this would likely happen.
also, since i've been reading other's threads, i realize i've worked on myself mentally alot lately, different thinking, changing behaviors etc, but i still haven't got out to be a better person socially and physically. actually since i got the house in order after she left, i've kinda let it slip. i need to get back into the hobbies i love.
i'll admit i backslid into a mini-depression this week. need to kick the funk and get back in gear. i need to be the man no woman would want to be without like i was before. i have a lot of work to do yet...
