How do I deal with a wife that doesn’t want a marriage, but is willing to stay for the time being to see if she can feel the change and possibly get the feelings she needs back?
Kane you have a gift of time. She loves you enough to give you that.
Read DR, then The Five Love Languages, then His Needs, Her Needs. Keep DR to yourself, but feel free to leave the other two in plain site, with a book mark where you are reading. Make the time.
Plan your interactions. Learn some of the lingo here, like acting as if, GAL, PMA and start doing them. She could just be waiting for one more shoe to drop. But that means you need to practice real giving.
This means putting your needs to the side right now and figuring out how she needs to feel loved. What did these other R's give her that she was missing with you?
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
