Should OP know the truth?

[forward]

I'd have to agree with everyone else. They do not care or they wouldn't have gotten involved. They are interested in what they can get for themselves.

Some are gold diggers. Many are naive and broken. They are poor risks and are likely to either cheat themselves or be cheated on again. The OW in my scene had a father who cheated on her mother.

At any rate, I'd be curious to know how many last more than say, seven years.

I'd also note that while most cling on like death, I have seen very few instances of marriage to OP on this board, and even when there is M, it doesn't seem to be much happier, if at all happier, than it was with us.

I am trying to prepare emotionally that H wants to marry OW, or said he did, but I remember the story my friend told me: it took 10 years but her X's OP has shown her true colors and X is not happy. She feels vindicated.

It may take years for reality to truly intervene, but it always does.