Been catching up on your thread and I gotta tell ya.....you are one of the most mature young ladies that I've ever known! I think I probably said that somewhere way back in the beginning, (and probably more than once), but it doesn't hurt to tell you again.
Not sure if you are asking for dating tips or about FB......of which I am very much out of touch these days....lol. But, of course I have something to say!
In your haste to get a new life.....there are still some things that have to be processed. I doubt seriously that I'm telling you anything you couldn't give me lessons about, but let's pretend that another person is lurking around the boards and this might help them, okay? As you are aware of, one of the most unpleasant feelings in our life that has to have time to process....is emotional pain. As much as I'm sure you wish you could "hurry" this along and move on to the next chapter in your life, we both know that won't happen that smoothly. That terrible 4 letter word.....T-I-M-E. Anyway, I've heard people in the dating world say that they don't enjoy going out with newly S or D people b/c all they can talk about is their spouse. So, I guess that is my tip on the dating scene. I think if "I" had to get out there again that I would have to be up-front with the man and tell him that I was not looking anything serious, outside of friendship, for a while. Yeah, I know.....men hate that word..."friendship"! Might run every guy in town away, right? I doubt you could run them all off....b/c they know a good thing when they see it. Well.....some guys, anyway!
Maybe I'm feeling protective here, but I want you to be careful and not allow yourself to fall into that old "rebound" trap. You will be okay and you will find happiness down the road.....or maybe even just around the corner. But, give all this bad stuff time to run its course so that you will be well and "ready" for Mr. Right when he picks up your map and coffee at the next elevator....
You do need to get into living, but please be careful with relationships, b/c as strong and as mature as you are.....there is much vulnerablility there.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
